Comments on: Giving Yourself Permission http://www.davejackson.com/self-improvement/giving-yourself-permission/ Mon, 23 Jan 2012 19:16:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Dave http://www.davejackson.com/self-improvement/giving-yourself-permission/#comment-7504 Dave Wed, 17 Sep 2008 23:27:13 +0000 http://www.davejackson.com/blog/?p=114#comment-7504 Thanks, Kimberly. I believe you absolutely shut off the flow when you don't accept what is for you. Even as much as refusing to let someone pay for your lunch sends a message that you feel you don't deserve. Dave Thanks, Kimberly. I believe you absolutely shut off the flow when you don’t accept what is for you. Even as much as refusing to let someone pay for your lunch sends a message that you feel you don’t deserve.

Dave

]]> By: Kimberly http://www.davejackson.com/self-improvement/giving-yourself-permission/#comment-7503 Kimberly Tue, 16 Sep 2008 20:04:46 +0000 http://www.davejackson.com/blog/?p=114#comment-7503 You're so right, Dave! And it's such an easy lesson that's sometimes (and more often than not) difficult to learn! Compliments were a big thing for me, for a long time. Not sure why, however I dismissed (or negated) nearly every one that came my way--"THIS shirt?! Aw, this old thing? It has a torn seam right here . . . " or "That's really nice of you to say that. Especially since I know I look less than stellar now," or "Really, it was no big deal. I don't deserve the credit; (So-And-So) is the real inspiration behind the new campaign." Then, with the support of a great team of friends and a life coach, I started to say "Thank you, it's true," after each compliment I received. Man, was that SO hard! Not only did it feel like I was being arrogant, however the "It's true" piece coming out of my lips made me reaffirm what others already saw! After a while, it became easier, and now I know--I do deserve each compliment sent my way! Why, because they are all true! So just like any other gift given to me, I can now accept the compliments, feel good about who I am, and more enthusiastically build others up as well! Give it a whirl--"Thank you, it's true!" You’re so right, Dave! And it’s such an easy lesson that’s sometimes (and more often than not) difficult to learn! Compliments were a big thing for me, for a long time. Not sure why, however I dismissed (or negated) nearly every one that came my way–”THIS shirt?! Aw, this old thing? It has a torn seam right here . . . ” or “That’s really nice of you to say that. Especially since I know I look less than stellar now,” or “Really, it was no big deal. I don’t deserve the credit; (So-And-So) is the real inspiration behind the new campaign.”
Then, with the support of a great team of friends and a life coach, I started to say “Thank you, it’s true,” after each compliment I received. Man, was that SO hard! Not only did it feel like I was being arrogant, however the “It’s true” piece coming out of my lips made me reaffirm what others already saw! After a while, it became easier, and now I know–I do deserve each compliment sent my way! Why, because they are all true! So just like any other gift given to me, I can now accept the compliments, feel good about who I am, and more enthusiastically build others up as well! Give it a whirl–”Thank you, it’s true!”

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