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Should You Release Emotions?

Most men are horrible about showing emotions. Women seem more connected to them, I believe mainly because of the way we are raised.

Here’s my take on releasing emotions.

Emotions, the kind that well up inside of us when we experience something in the present that takes us to a precious moment in the past, are useful. They should not be quenched or suppressed.

These strong feelings are given to us for the purpose of keeping our tapestry in place. I’ve talked about this before, how since the day we are born we are weaving our own tapestry filled with experiences that are meant to create this beautiful episode on this planet called life. Each is different, mine different than yours.

tapestry of lifeAnd I feel a bit sad when someone suppresses those emotions.

For me, it’s important not to erase or block out part of what is your core. And yet, at the same time I understand we are all spiritual beings progressing and changing, keeping the tapestry growing and as beautiful as we can make it.

Certainly you don’t want to get crazy about something in your past, but know that it is perfectly OK to let it out once in a while and not say your sorry, or that you’re OK. Get in touch with those emotions and go to your core figuring out why this part of your tapestry is so important to you.

So what do you think? Have you ever felt this way and simply didn’t know what to do? Share with me how you handled it, and if you believe I have a valid point.

And thanks for reading. I love that you visit and hope what I write helps you in your daily walk on this planet.

Be good,
Dave

What American Airlines Taught Me Most

Well, I’m sure I’m not going to get all of the story in one post tonight. What I learned at American Airlines was more than a book full. In fact, I’ve often thought about writing about the whole episode of my life there. It was perfect timing and I learned exactly what I needed to. It’s amazing how that when the student is ready…the teacher will appear. Thank God for that.

Let me tell you briefly, since I need to get some rest (and you might, too) that the biggest thing I learned there is how the whole operation of flight can be applied to life. I don’t know how many times I’ve looked back at my experiences there and said wow… that is exactly what I need to be doing right now.

You see, to fly a commercial route, like American Airlines does hundreds of times a day, you need a flight plan. And in life, in order to get where you’re going – if you’re even headed somewhere – you need some sort of plan.

There are SO many facets of getting one flight from point A to point B, and almost all of them have something very vital and similar in our daily lives. What I’m going to be doing over the next few weeks is showing you how the two are similar and how the flying can help the living. Let me tell you, it has helped me so much – this is something you can use everyday.

An ebook I am almost finished with is largely taken from experience I learned at AA. Basically, I knew my destination, I just had no clue how to get there with what I had. Thankfully the airline biz helped me with all the answers and I am positive it can help you.

Did you know that each aircraft that flies in the fleet for an airline is constantly being maintained and is scheduled through a maintenance base a few times a year? It’s sorta like a checkup really. There are a few flavors. Think of them like going to your doctor. You know, you might just need an adjustment, so you go to the chiropractor. And if you need something more you’d go for a scan or have tests done. And finally, once a year, you have a major “physical” done.

It’s the same with that 767 you just flew (or the 737, too.) They go in for light checkups, medium checks and a full-blown, take the airplane apart check about once a year.

With an aircraft, you can’t mess around. But what I do is make my health just as important. It’s serious stuff and the checks should be as routine and planned as that 737. You see, if an airline treated their fleet like a lot of people treat their health, they would soon be out of business.

How do you schedule your checkups? Well. the airline business does this by counting rotations. A rotation is when the nose wheel leaves the ground and the aircraft begins to be airborne. That’s one rotation. The engines are clocked by how many hours they run, but are also checked during the checkups done after so many rotations. So you need to figure out how to incorporate this “counting” system into your schedule. For me, I get a minor tweak each week at a chiropractor who is also a naturopath. Semi annually I get a blood test and annually, the full physical.

Aircraft are bound by a myriad of rules and regulations, most by the FAA, but a bunch by the airline itself. For example, if something important breaks, they may not be able to fly. Other items can be placarded, which means they are written up as not working and fixed as soon as the airplane gets to a base that has parts.

For you, there should be certain items set that you will not continue, like when you go over a certain weight, you won’t eat like a pig and will start jogging immediately. Other things can be taken care of as soon as you possibly can, like getting all the amalgam out of your mouth, or getting your eyes checked.

Finally, know that just like an aircraft, your body – as wonderful as it is – replaces cells by the millions all the time. How the cells know to do this is crazy fascinating. (Thank you, God!) Most aircraft (airframe) parts can be replaced. You’d be amazed what that 737 looks like with no outside skin or without one of the engines. Yet those parts wear out. The airline makes sure over the life of the plane that it gets the best they can afford. You, too, should eat the best you can so that your body has a fighting chance to repair what it needs and change out the cells that need to be changed.

When you tax your body with foods that make it work extra hard to filter poisons, like sugars, colors, fat, it doesn’t have much of an opportunity to repair itself. And repairing takes a lot of energy, which many times is used up in fighting our poor diet. Think about that the next time you eat.

Well, there are other similarities, but you get the point. Value what you’ve got. If you knew how good it could be there would be no question about maintaining your health. And on this last note, today my 9 year old had her end of the year party at school. And I noticed one of the classmates who has a very serious disease. She takes heavy medication for it. But the family is oblivious to how diet affects the body because this person was downing pizza and chocolate like nobody’s business. It’s sad, really, that people misuse what God has given them.

We have all we need to be cured, to live large, to live wealthy. Share what you learn with others and it will come back to you. I promise. And don’t forget to read more about my parallels to American Airlines this month. Take care!

The Best Way to Share

One way of upsetting another person, if they give you the power to do so, is to make them become aware of something they weren’t searching for. Take for example, the subject of eating. If you try to make someone aware of their bad food choices, chances are they won’t like it – unless, of course, they’re searching for a change.

Naturally, the way you go about “educating” someone can also have a profound effect on how open they are to anything new. Isn’t it true that when people think it’s their idea, they fall in love with it?

When you make someone aware of new things that you have found profound and fascinating, if you simply tell them how it has helped you, or how you are now feeling, they will most likely want to experiment for themselves.

It’s just doesn’t go over well when you say – HEY! DID YOU KNOW YOU’RE EATING CRAP??!

So the rule when you learn anything here with me and want to share it with someone, is to just tell them how it’s changed you. OK? Make them want to know what it is and how they can get some. Try it. You’ll find when they make the decision, it is permanent. When you force it on them, or make them feel bad about it, they’ll probably tell you to go fly a kite.

The movie Food Inc.Your homework for this weekend, if you choose to accept it, or at anytime you read this, is to go find the movie Food Inc and watch it. I’ll talk about in the coming days and you’ll want to see what everyone is talking about.

Talk soon,
Dave

Celiac and Whole Foods

wheat crop celiacI’m allergic to wheat gluten, but I’ve found some really cool things about living with it.  Who knows?  I’m thinking someday I’ll be totally free from it.  I really do.

My decision to unplug from the celiac community, i.e. to stay away from forums and lists, may not be your best choice.  I did it because I found it fueled my negative thoughts about the disease, and I know how hard it is for me to keep my mind in a positive state.

I’ve found that celiac affects people differently.  I have yet to found anyone like me. I have dermatitis herpetiformis, and you may have that type of celiac disease, but your reaction to wheat gluten, and the amount you can tolerate is probably different from me.

I find that I can tolerate more when I’m in shape.  That probably makes sense.

Wheat gluten is in a lot of foods but companies are getting much better about listing it on the ingredients that contain it – like modified food starch.  One of the best places I’ve found that lists ingredients well is Whole Foods Market.  Have you been there?

This place is crazy good.  Did you know you can walk to info desk and ask for a person to help you find gluten-free foods.  And not just those obviously marked!  They have lists of foods – just ask for it.

And did you know that the best flour in the world that is totally gluten-free and my “normal” family says tastes better than regular flour – is a brand called Pamelas?  Maybe you knew that, but I stumbled on it at a Wild Oats store a year or so ago.

So check ‘em out.  If you don’t have a Whole Foods Market near you, you can order Pamela’s online.

Could it be That Easy?

It’s past 11 PM and I look like I need some sleep, but while I’m writing this, in the background I am rendering (fancy word for converting a video from the movie maker to something I can upload to YouTube) a 3:45 movie about my beaches website.  I’m doing this because after watching a well known marketer pitch his new “system” I put two and two together and had an AhHa moment.

At first I thought, wow – I can use this in some of my businesses – especially one I am really putting a lot of effort in that deals in liquid nutrition.  And the simplicity of it all makes me think that it will probably work.  The reason I chose my travel website first, is because it is well established and was super easy to make a little video about (I’ve been writing content for it since 2005.)

The idea is that video gets ranked very well in Google search.  In other words, when you do a search for how to write a song, you will see that video gets ranked on the first page.  Try this with almost any keyword.  Pretty snazzy, huh.

What’s even better is that a lot less SEO (search engine optimization) goes into your simple video than that page that’s ranking in the top 10.  So I’m excited by the prospects.

I’ll make this first video, and maybe a few on Florida beaches since I’m here, and upload them to YouTube, and then get backlinks to them (important!)  And I’ll let you know the results.  It will work and I’ll tell you how well it worked.  Then you can try it if you want.

What I’m interested in is creating some self-help videos and product related videos that will drive visitors to my business website.  Sounds like something easy enough.

In case you’re wondering, try a few searches for videos on page one of Google, like:

how to make a kite
how to paint a room
planting garlic

You get the idea… these videos, for the most part, are made with cheap cameras and hardly any editing.  So this is something you can do.  Don’t complicate it and use this to get more business to your site and company.

Talk soon,
Dave

N. Y. Jets Not Mentally Tough

It was a fun Sunday. Lots of football. We even broke out the organic corn chips (Costco) and Malbec (Whole Foods). Dennis had a supply of these incredible almonds from Starbucks. But even as we were set to watch a good challenge, someone was going to lose.

Can all disease be cured? Wow, Dave… you jump around subjects, no? Ha, well…there are those that think all disease can be cured by both mental and diet. Likewise, there are those in the school of thought that football is all a mental game. Forget that there are the dynamics of genetics for diseases, and the whole physicality behind playing football.

If it can’t be cured, using mental powers can come awfully close. With football, it’s almost the same. If your head is in the right place, everything falls into place. Granted, both teams have to be physically identical.

So did the losers of the championship games we watched yesterday the victims of bad thinking?

Yes. And NFL teams spend time conditioning the mind as well as the body. But that’s the fun of the whole thing. Dennis said that soon those players on the screen would be droids. Then it would boil down to strategy. Or would thought play a huge part in it as it does today.

In other words, even droid operators have a mind which can be swayed by thinking.

And if this is such a big part of winning and losing, don’t you think it should be studied in your life, for your benefit? I thought as much for me, and am going through a program by Bob Proctor called the Success Puzzle. Six CD’s and a workbook mainly about what you spend your time thinking about.

I’m just starting it, so I’ll let you know how it goes. Right now I am reviewing my worthy ideal. Pretty cool name, right? Worthy ideal.

OK, let me know what you think about the importance the mind plays in our lives. Talk soon. Dave

How to Set Your Priorities in Life

OK, it’s past mid-January as I write this, but whenever you’re reading it, whatever time of year, if you feel you’re a little out of control, maybe life got in the way, or you’re not too good at the to-do list, then there’s hope.

I know how hard it is with kids, pets, work, home, spouses – not it that order, hehe – but it can become a challenge.  And because others have gone down this path before us, there is a lot to learn from seeing how they managed, or didn’t.

Here’s a great article to check out, by Mark Foo, on eight simple steps to setting your priorities.  Let me know what you think.

How Much of The Secret Do You Really Believe?

I am really committed this year to give everything I’ve got to be all that I can be.  And as much as that sounds like an Air Force commercial, it’s true.  Things have fallen into place that will make this an exciting decade.

I have started teaching online and at first was having an issue with my PC.  Here’s the deal – the teaching sites I use require that you use a headset.  I’ve tried it both with a headset and without, and the headset really makes a big difference.  These sites don’t have the technology that Skype uses in their software, which I find SO amazing that you can carry out a conversation without a headset, and even walk around the room, and people on the other side of the world can hear you crystal clear.  And yes, I could teach on Skype, which has a nifty interface with PayPal where at the click of a button you can start the clock and charge per hour/minute/etc.

So I’m looking for this USB headset I bought a few years ago at Best Buy that worked so well and makes me sound like the guy that does the promos for the movies.  I couldn’t find it anywhere.  Rachel and I zoomed off to Best Buy to buy a new set.  Microsoft has this Windows Live Messenger headset that I knew I wouldn’t have to install all the software that comes with it.  Should work as a nice USB headset.

It didn’t.

When I did install all the assorted software, that makes it work well with Live Messenger, it did work, but…for some reason on my PC there was this big delay in the audio.

Now, when I recorded my last lessons for www.NetDominate.com with a USB headset, it worked well.  No delay.  But I was running Windows Vista, and granted my PC is a few years old, no USB 2.0, nothing fancy, and it worked great.

On this recent attempt, I was running Windows 7 Beta.  My son gets these beta copies and off we go.  Like anyone, I Googled why a USB mic would be delayed in Windows 7.  And there are so many reasons, but I felt mine was because of my old PC and a new OS.  Old sound card.

While getting the real Windows 7, I went through the whole list of backing up my software and files, and installing everything fresh.  I love that it happened at the end of the year.  I love new beginnings.  I love new days, Mondays, new slates.

When looking for software, I found my CD of The Secret.  I started listening to it, again.  Wow.  I thought back on things and realized that the Law of Attraction is real and that it happens whether we think it does or not.

But I know everyone doesn’t buy into The Secret, and I want to know what you think about it.  Do you believe everything, or do you pick and choose the things that you believe work for you?  And has The Secret helped you in any way?  If so, how?

How to Welcome 2010

Wow, this year has flown by!  I mean, really… and I look back over it and I always do this – I think if I’m working the same challenges I did this time last year.

If there is one single piece of advice that I could give you to make 2010 even better than 2009, it would be to feverishly journal everything you do.  I mean how can you – with the mind we have – keep tabs on how your life is going if you don’t grade it as you go and review it.  We’re we taught that in school?

And if not in school, certainly that’s the way the teacher keep tabs on us throughout the year.  The reason why is because it works.

So take this time in these next few days and buy yourself a nice journal for the new year.  I use composition books because I can carry those around and leave them for my kids when I move along.  Make it a fun thing.  I write something every night.

And don’t forget to look back on what you’ve written.  See what makes you tick.  You’d be surprised!  Fine tune your results into a wonderful life.

Have you ever journaled?  What did it give you?

Getting Ready for Christmas

I’ve heard my whole life that this time of year is most famous for depression.  Haven’t you heard that Christmastime is when most suicides occur?  I think a lot of it has to do with our culture that rewards people who can give more financially, such as gifts.  And when we don’t have a lot to give loved ones, couple with the fact that we’re drowning in debt, it’s little wonder our self-talk is not very edifying.

The majority of us are trapped in a routine we have become satisfied with.  We wait for some magical day when things will be all better and we will again make enough money to pay for the lifestyle we feel we deserve.  When we get a glimpse that we really don’t make enough, such as around Christmastime, coupled with the fact that we’re probably not near family, our thought process becomes downright poisoning.

We tell ourselves that it appears we can’t really breakthrough the level we have habitually been stuck at.  When we do this, we take very little action to improve our situation.  What we do day to day produces little and that feeds into our lack of belief in the whole process.

Can you see how that is a downward spiral?

What you may not realize is that you’re even in a downward spiral, or that your situation is mentally poisoning you.  I can speak from experience that it is a slippery slope once that spiral starts.

And if I told you right now what the solution was, if you are really stuck in your situation and feel a lifeline would be really good right about now – you would probably laugh at me, or scoff, or say as my oldest son used to say when I told him great things in life, “been there, done that, doesn’t work for me.”  I actually thought he was regurgitating a friends’ words, but it may have come from his heart.

So why would you laugh?  I really think there are several things at work here.  One, we all want a magical fix, that would be immediate and would require little effort on our part.  Sort of like a pill.  So culture has screwed us up in that regard, because even though many fixes are quick, some things do require effort.  And you probably have a hard time even cleaning off your desk at this point.

Few admit that they’re in a crisis mode, where really, they’re just doing all they can to keep their head above water.  They are putting out fires and planning a life is the furthest thing from their minds.  Figuring out how to pay the property taxes is more critical than creating a wonderful fulfilling life.  You want it, but your mind keeps telling you that if you leave what you’re doing now, it may get worse.

What if I told you that you can break free and that I know you already have the potential to do this?

You do!  And I’m going to help you get free from this downward spiral.  This will work during any season, at any time, you simply need to do the work I’m going to give you.   But I know you won’t do this unless you have a good reason to; you know you’re up against the wall.  So before I reveal anything, I want to have the certainty that you will follow through.  This is going to require a notebook to measure some things we discuss, so in my next post, you’re going to learn what it takes to break free and I’ll show you how you can do it for your life.

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