I’ve heard my whole life that this time of year is most famous for depression. Haven’t you heard that Christmastime is when most suicides occur? I think a lot of it has to do with our culture that rewards people who can give more financially, such as gifts. And when we don’t have a lot to give loved ones, couple with the fact that we’re drowning in debt, it’s little wonder our self-talk is not very edifying.
The majority of us are trapped in a routine we have become satisfied with. We wait for some magical day when things will be all better and we will again make enough money to pay for the lifestyle we feel we deserve. When we get a glimpse that we really don’t make enough, such as around Christmastime, coupled with the fact that we’re probably not near family, our thought process becomes downright poisoning.
We tell ourselves that it appears we can’t really breakthrough the level we have habitually been stuck at. When we do this, we take very little action to improve our situation. What we do day to day produces little and that feeds into our lack of belief in the whole process.
Can you see how that is a downward spiral?
What you may not realize is that you’re even in a downward spiral, or that your situation is mentally poisoning you. I can speak from experience that it is a slippery slope once that spiral starts.
And if I told you right now what the solution was, if you are really stuck in your situation and feel a lifeline would be really good right about now – you would probably laugh at me, or scoff, or say as my oldest son used to say when I told him great things in life, “been there, done that, doesn’t work for me.” I actually thought he was regurgitating a friends’ words, but it may have come from his heart.
So why would you laugh? I really think there are several things at work here. One, we all want a magical fix, that would be immediate and would require little effort on our part. Sort of like a pill. So culture has screwed us up in that regard, because even though many fixes are quick, some things do require effort. And you probably have a hard time even cleaning off your desk at this point.
Few admit that they’re in a crisis mode, where really, they’re just doing all they can to keep their head above water. They are putting out fires and planning a life is the furthest thing from their minds. Figuring out how to pay the property taxes is more critical than creating a wonderful fulfilling life. You want it, but your mind keeps telling you that if you leave what you’re doing now, it may get worse.
What if I told you that you can break free and that I know you already have the potential to do this?
You do! And I’m going to help you get free from this downward spiral. This will work during any season, at any time, you simply need to do the work I’m going to give you. But I know you won’t do this unless you have a good reason to; you know you’re up against the wall. So before I reveal anything, I want to have the certainty that you will follow through. This is going to require a notebook to measure some things we discuss, so in my next post, you’re going to learn what it takes to break free and I’ll show you how you can do it for your life.
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