Want the secret to why you’re not financially where you want to be? You don’t believe you deserve to be. It’s that simple. If you’ve been raised with a steady drumbeat of criticism, you probably conclude, unconsciously, that you don’t deserve to be happy or successful.
I think it’s the worst experience of childhood and I see it all too much – people who actually make it feel guilty about it. And then these guilt feelings, like a thermostat, make them get rid of the money – seemingly throwing it away. I see them spend it foolishly, lend it, or just give it away. And sometimes it’s worse – in a self-sabotage move, they turn to overeating, drinking, drugs, infidelity, sometimes becoming so different than the people I once knew.
If you want a different outcome, you must change how you think about money.
Here’s a great analogy I hope you remember. Money is like a lover. It has to be courted and coaxed, flattered and given much attention. Money gravitates to people who respect it and value it. People who it knows are capable of doing worthwhile things with it. Think of it flowing through the fingers and fleeing from people who don’t understand it, or like those I mentioned, don’t take care of it.
I’ve heard so many people say that they’re not good with money. Did you know that being good with money is something you can learn through practice? If you say you’re not good with money, I see it as an excuse that you’re not disciplined with money. You just haven’t learned how to acquire it, or hang onto it when it comes.
How Can I Change My Thoughts About Money?
I see people begin to accumulate money when they finally understand that they have an unlimited capacity to get all the money they will ever need. They finally look at themselves as success just waiting to happen. And they believe that they deserve all they can honestly acquire.
Here’s a new thought: money can be good. My response is always that money gives me choices and lets me live my life the way I want to live it. It opens doors for me that simply would have been closed without money. But I realize, like anything really, that obsession can be hurtful. If I became so preoccupied with money that I lose sight of the fact that it is merely a tool that is used to acquire happiness – then money becomes a hurtful thing.
What Does The Bible Say About Money?
Many of you know my Dad was a preacher with over 40 years in the ministry. We learned early on that the Bible says, “The love of money is the root of all evil.” Dad pointed out that it doesn’t say, “money is the root of all evil.” It says that the “love of money” is the root of all evil. Without money, Mom and Dad would have never made it to the mission field of Brazil and to their home on the Amazon. You see, it’s the preoccupation with money – to the exclusion of the really important things in life – that is the problem. Money itself isn’t a problem. You gotta have money to live. It is neutral, neither good or bad. But remember this – it is only the way that we acquire it and the uses we put it to that determines if it is helpful or hurtful.