Self Confidence

by Dave Jackson

The mill and mixer arrived at the doorstep today. But the blender was missing. After a few e-mails, some apologies, the blender is being shipped in the morning.

This reminded me of how without set plans, goals, we as humans seem to operate at our lowest level of self confidence. We offer excuses, apologies, regrets. In fact, our lives are really only operating at a fraction of the level they could be if we only had a game plan.

Okay, you say, I’ll make up a game plan and confidence will exude. Not so fast!

Let’s learn more about “confidence”. First, how do you get it? How can you have it so you can walk out the door and up to somebody and tell them about your great business? Yes, you have to have belief, but how is belief formed? Confidence only happens when you can confide in something reliable, something consistent.

Take for example the chair you’re sitting in while reading this. Confident it’s going to hold you? Did you look at it, ask other’s opinion before you sat down? No! You just plunked yourself down in it fully believing it would hold your weight – matter of fact, so confident were you that you DIDN’T EVEN THINK ABOUT IT! You automatically knew it would – based on past experience. It’s consistent, reliable. It will always hold you – don’t worry about it.

So how can you waltz out the door and talk with total confidence about your business?

Your belief must be grounded in something consistent and reliable. What are you believing in? Okay, I’ll help you out here. Like the chair, find something that doesn’t change, no matter what. For instance, the company you are representing. Solid, steadfast. Great. The compensation plan? Solid as well, no? Right on! The products? Wow – totally awesome, best on the planet hands down. Okay – you can believe in those things.

Next, since Network Marketing is a home based business, you can run it just as you please (as long as you stay within the guidelines of the policy and procedures manual for your company). But, I mean, you choose your hours, your clothes, your marketing technique. Is this the area that is the cause of your low self confidence?

How confident were you when you drove to the store today? Wow, didn’t even think of the drive, did you? What if you were in a new town and someone drew out a map for you. And you followed each step of the map and wound up at your destination. Then, when you left, you just back-tracked – with all the confidence in the world!!! Why? Because you knew exactly where you were going!

As simple as it seems, you may need only to make a map. A plan. A goal. If you were to write out a step-by-step plan for your neighbor to run your business for a day, what would you do? How would that plan look? Step one – step two – step three… all the way until closing, or quitting time. Do you suppose your neighbor would wonder what to do and have zero self confidence? Absolutely not! They would know exactly what to do and when and have all the confidence in the world!

Those steps are consistent things which your neighbor knew would not change for the period you were away. Just like the chair, he or she would rely on the next step and just do it.

Now suppose step number four said – Okay, now, drive to Sally’s house on the east side of town. Then come back and wrap up some boxes.

Hey, wait! How do I get to Sally’s? And Sally who? And what do I do when I get there? And wrap what boxes? I’m not sure WHAT I’m doing!!?!!

See how important having rock solid goals and a roadmap to get there is? Wake up! It’s vital to your business and most importantly your self confidence!

Paul, the apostle, was SO confident. Many times he said it was because of his great trust in God (talk about consistent and reliable!) 2 Cor 3:4-5. John related this, too in I John 3:19-22. Being bold and confident was Paul’s trademark, and he was only able to do it because his belief was in something he knew would never, ever change or let him down.

Get bold. Get confident. Create those “steps”. Believe in your system and don’t worry about the outcome.

Paul never did.

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Susan Stapleton September 8, 2005 - 1:44 pm

Wow! What a nice recipe for a daily plan! And I appreciate the scripture. Thank you for the motivation. We need it!


Dave September 8, 2005 - 1:58 pm

Thanks! You’ll need to flesh it out, but the idea is to get into the habit of knowing where you’re going before you take off. Most airline pilots show up for work knowing they will be doing some flying that day, but if they simply take off without a flight plan, who knows where they’ll end up and what obstacles they will encounter along the way?

Dave Jackson

Max September 11, 2005 - 4:47 am

Hi there, I like the way you post. Even if it is totally unrelated, it just give my life a whole new meaning, and thanks for visiting my blog!


Dave September 11, 2005 - 9:05 am

No problem, Max. Thanks for reading! Let’s keep in touch.

Malina September 11, 2005 - 11:48 pm

Great stuff here too! Thanks for visiting mine.


Jenny September 12, 2005 - 1:00 am


because God loves me, i do not care what anyone else thinks. i need not worry about my life, for God is the constant in my life. Christ is my firm foundation! i am confident in him!

i really liked this post…. 🙂

Paula September 12, 2005 - 1:42 am

Hey! Thanks for visiting my blog! I don’t believe in coincidences, so i know i arrive here for a reson. It’s wonderful how you gave me forces to continue on my project (i’m just starting).
Great posts!

Claudia September 12, 2005 - 2:52 am

I came here only for thanking for ur kindness..
How did u find my blog anyway??
Do u have MSN? If u have and want to add me to talk more, mine is
Kisses from Brazil..

M.F. September 12, 2005 - 3:06 am

Hi, your blog is very nice and interesting!
Just go on this way, it’s the right one!

Liz September 12, 2005 - 8:20 am

Hi, just checking out your blog. Definetly will come back this way again. I like the lively way you write. 🙂

Janne September 12, 2005 - 11:55 am

Hi Dave…just a thought, maybe you place a bit too much importance on planning as such? I’m a big planner myself, but what I’ve learn to be even more important is the way you react and how you respond when things don’t go as planned! Being flexible and coping with new plans all the time seems to be the reality of most of us, therein lays the real challenge, in my opinion 😉


Kim September 12, 2005 - 1:42 pm

Hey thanks Dave for coming to look at my website. You are a very smart man. I can tell by your approach and by your plan.
:0) I liked the part about Paul and knowing where your help comes from. Have cofidence with faith, right? Take care!

Daniel Rojas September 12, 2005 - 2:49 pm

I am just starting a very important project in my professional life and this site really gives me something to think about. Thank you. Anyway, great site and your welcome to come back to mine and leave your impressions. Just a question ¿do you understood my site?, you know, couse it is written in spanish. (Thought i don’t know if my inglish is good enough)
So long, and lets keep in touch.

Aneesah September 12, 2005 - 6:01 pm

So you do Marketing? Was wondering if you know about the stock market. I am young. Soon to be 21 and I value saving but not sure where to invest and such. Perhaps we can keep intouch.

Uca September 12, 2005 - 8:29 pm

Hi, there! thanks for stopping at my site. I will definitely come back and see what you got to say! I enjoyed reading your comments!

Ayesha September 12, 2005 - 9:18 pm

Will keep coming back.

Dave September 12, 2005 - 9:48 pm

I agree, Janne, we should always allow for life to happen and be flexible. What I tell people is to never allow something they can’t control to upset them. So if your planning gets all out of whack, don’t beat yourself up – unless there was something you could have done about it.

What happens is people use this as a cop-out and then don’t plan at all, thinking that, “well, it’s going to get messed up, anyway”. I say – get some discipline and try to plan your day the night before at least for one month. Then it becomes habit.

So plan, then tomorrow – do it… and if something goes wrong, just work with it and get back on track ASAP. Don’t get discouraged. All of us must shift things around. Just like goals. If you set nothing down on paper, that’s exactly what you’re going to hit.


the Rep September 12, 2005 - 10:30 pm

Good stuff What is a rrs feed?

Bella September 13, 2005 - 4:01 am

HI there, u dropped by earlier at my blog. Anyway, what an interesting blog. I enjoyed reading all ur posts 🙂 Wish u all the best.

Ingrid Fedra September 13, 2005 - 4:43 am

hi dave!thanks for the coment u put on my blog …;) i really apreciated that.
now talking about your post…
i totally agree with what you said: people need to be more confidence with theirselves coz confidence is the step to sucess and happiness…but if u see in a general way, people now have less self confidence than people usually on 30 years ago… but now i ask: why´s that?? is just because world is changing and affects our confidence or is just because people thinks that “Everythings go wrong, anyway…”…
we have to think about it more times…:P

in relation to plaining our lives…
i prefer live my day without planing anything because when i plan it,sometimes things just go wrong or don´t go how i wanted to…

i really like your blog and i am a big fan already…
sorry for the mistakes….i don´t write english very well…. :p

ingrid, portugal

blemblem September 13, 2005 - 5:19 am

Visiting back. What a coincidence, I’m just starting my master studies on Marketing…

My blog will also concern marketing, I suppose, because my classes are about to start, and all that stuff will be my mind and thoughts night and day…


...sweet and the sour... September 13, 2005 - 7:41 pm

Thanks for your comment. I never thought that my blog could be interesting for you…as you are in the marketing bussiness..=p
but I actually like a lot marketing I was to choose marketing…but I choose instead turism because I love to travel! Well I’m escaping from the subject already..I’m sorry.

Thanks again for your comment and I hope you can visit more often if you wish, and comment too ;D

Ana, from Portugal

itch September 17, 2005 - 12:28 pm

useless network marketing products, never buy them never will and 98% of the population feel the same, you would think enough people would realize network marketing is just another fancy word for mlm pyramid scam.

Dave September 17, 2005 - 3:19 pm

Thanks for the comment. Shows you are reading the site and that’s great. Everyone is entitled to their opinion.

Jillian September 25, 2005 - 4:24 pm

Hello Dave, I found you from leaving a post on my blog ( I didnt know other people saw my journal?)… so I enjoy reading your posts… and your view is a great one… I look forward to reading more…. ~Jillian

Dave September 28, 2005 - 11:01 am

Hi Ingrid,

I agree that we trust less, because technology has created ways to quickly ruin trust. Another point is we are too rushed to create bonding relationships.

I disagree with living day to day without planning. How is that working out for you?

When you set goals, don’t make the outcome so tight that when you miss the mark you’re totally devastated. Allow room to grow. Go watch March of the Penguins. They plan, yet fail many times – but they never give up.

What is exciting for humans is that when we do the same, we are richly rewarded for our efforts.

ramses September 28, 2005 - 11:15 am

hola amigo como estas muy bueno tu blog
ke Dios te Bendiga Muxo
Paz de Cristo—-


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